1. Work hard, even when no one is watching
The definition of integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching. Kids like to do things to gain attention (of course some adults do too), but we got to correct them when young that doing good, working hard is not for the sole purpose of getting recognised and be rewarded.
2. Honesty actually is the best policy
There is a saying that when you said a lie, you will need to say 7 more lies to cover it up. The fact is no matter how, a lie will always be exposed. I would rather my kids to grow up learning failures and become better than lying through life just to get pass certain stages. Honesty will surely be rewarded eventually.
3. Modesty isn’t an old fashioned ideal
Being modest can be trendy at the same time. I do not want to raise up my girls to be humble but old-fashioned in thinking or in behaviours. Be colourful, be vibrant, but remain humble and know that nothing is a guarantee.
4. Protect your heart
Teach your daughter to be caution in relationships. Dating is fine but teach the kids to be accountable.
5. Serve your community
Be a responsible member of the society. I feel in this internet, fast-paced environment we are living in now it is even more important to teach our kids to understand that their actions and decisions may or can affect others. If possible, do good for the less fortunate is always a nice thing to do.
6. Focus on the beauty on the inside
Our culture puts so much focus on outer focus so much so that young girls are starving themselves just to look pretty. Encourage your girls to be true to themselves. Everyone is uniquely beautiful. Focus on the inner beauty because that is what will stay with them forever.
7. Don’t be afraid to take risks
Encourage your daughter to pursue her dreams and take (reasonable) risks to advance her learning, her career, her future.
8. Gossip is dangerous
Girls are known to like to gossip. Deal with this habit early and be a good example at home. Teach them that words can build or destroy. So their choice is very important.
9. Don’t be afraid to walk into a room alone
This is about inspiring confidence in your daughter. As girls, they may at times be shy or lack of confidence when handling issues or people. Always greet people with a firm handshake, that is definitely a good start.
10. Don’t take your blessings for granted
Remind the girls that they are very very blessed. Showed them the differences between what we had and what they have now. This is not to teach them to sympathise us but rather to be able to give thanks for whatever they have or may not have. Don’t lose sight of what they have now for what they wish to have.